Underage nightclubs - Do I let her go?
Published 1 year, 4 months ago in My life.Underage nightclubs - well that’s news to me. I had never heard about them until yesterday when my 14 yr old came home from school with a “pass'’ to Cheeky Underage on Saturday. She’s pretty sensible and knows that there is not much chance of me allowing her to go but what does everyone else think? One friend said “No way it would be like throwing her daughter to the lions.'’
I didn’t want to say no right up front - always a good move to say “I’ll give it some thought'’. I actually called the local cops to ask whether there had been any trouble reported at previous events but they said not that they were aware of. This event is advertised as smoke-free, alcohol-free, supervised - by whom? - and metal detectors and breathalysers are used. But this event is advertised on MySpace. What are the chances hundreds of young people will turn up - the train station is five minutes away. No amount of security is going to help them then. What do others think? What’s your experience? Do I let her go?
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Don’t be too quick to say no… social isolation and depression can do as much damage as teenage drinking.
But still, I see what you mean… 14 is really young… if you did let your daughter go, and I’m sure you know this already, she’d have to be finished her homework, with a specified group of friends, with a definite time she has to be home, and then there’s the drugs/drink/boyfriends talk…
You could always use it as a bargaining tool, e.g. “if you prove to me that you’re trustworthy you can go, but if you are irresponsible you can’t go again”… “if you pass all your subjects, you can go, if you don’t, you stay home and do homework”…
… These are only suggestions… I’m no mum…
I can’t imagine it’s easy to say no to a 14yo these days. Good luck!
Take this advice from a teens stand point.I went to a teen club called the D.A.R.E dance.It was ok but scary for my first time.It was safe with alot of sercurity checking to see if you were high.When I got home I was questioned to see if I was alright .I was ok .But not all night clubs are as safe as the one I went to.Some sell drugs,and I heard a story that a employ made this contest for a 15 year old to take her skirt off.So do you want your child to go to a underage night club? That is your chose.I just hope you make a good decision and that your daughter is safe.
i go to underage nightclubs all the time which are organised by various organisations specifically for young people to have something to do. they are safe and yes you need to face the fact soooner or later that no matter where your daughter goes, she is 14 and there will always be drugs and alcohol around. these events are perfectly safe as long as she has safe transport and you said she is sensible so i garantee she would be fine! dont isolate her from the real world now, it will only make her more rowdy later because she will be excited to have fun , no offence but you seem to conservative.